Parenting Book for parents

Go to Your Room!: Consequences That Teach by Shari Steelsmith tells you why many consequences don’t work and how to start selecting ones that will help your child learn to do better next time.

The book is a guide for parents with 3 to 14 year-old children. The Author, Shari Steelsmith holds a degree in English Literature from Seattle Pacific. After a decade of editing children’s and parenting books, she is now a freelance writer of books and articles on family, parenting, and educational topics. To date, she has written and co-authored a total of eleven books.

• Over 50 common misbehaviors and lists of creative workable consequences
• Real-life examples and solutions easily adaptable to your family
• Immediately usable, practical ideas
• Tips & techniques for avoiding a consequence scenario
• How to choose the right consequence for your child
• How to effectively deliver a consequence and follow through
• How to deal with children’s protests, arguments, and tantrums

Visit the website for more information about parenting and the book at http://www.ParentingPress.com

Montessori vs Multiple Intelligence - What’s best for my Child?

A lot of Teaching methods are made available to children nowadays, methods like Reggio Emilia, Waldorf, Cooperative and so on, I will be discussing two of the more popular approaches that I know of, (1)The Montessori Approach, and (2)Multiple Intelligences.

Montessori Method
- The Montessori method is an educational method for children, based on theories of child development originated by Italian educator Maria Montessori in the late 19th and early 20th century. It is applied primarily in preschool and elementary school settings, though some Montessori high schools exist.

The Montessori method stresses the importance of adapting the child’s learning environment to his or her developmental level, and of the role of physical activity in absorbing academic concepts and practical skills. It is also characterized by the use of autodidactic (self-correcting) equipment to introduce various concepts.

* note * Although there are many schools which use the name ‘Montessori’, the word itself is not recognized as a trademark, nor is it associated with a single specific organization.

Multiple Intelligences (MI)
- first developed by Howard Gardner, describing an array of different kinds of ‘intelligences’ exhibited by human beings. Gardner suggests that each individual manifests varying levels of these different intelligences, and thus each person has a unique ‘cognitive profile’.

The most common criticisms argue that Gardner’s theory is based on his own intuition rather than empirical data and that the intelligences are just other names for talents or personality types.

Categories of Intelligence According to Gardner:

1. Bodily-Kinesthetic
   People who are skilled at sports, dancing or any other activity that involves physical movement. Bodily-kinesthetic people learn best by physically doing something, rather than hearing or reading about it.
2. Extropersonal
   Interacting with other people is this intelligence’s main strength, extropersonal people, otherwise known as extroverts are generally characterized by their sensitivity to others’ moods, feelings and temperament which makes them easy to work and communicate with. Extropersonal people learn best by working with others.
3. Verbal-Linguistic
   Categorized as those who are good with words, whether it be written or spoken. They are good at reading, writing, telling stories and memorizing. Verbal-linguistic people learn best through reading, taking down notes and listening.
4. Logical-Mathematical
   This area has everything to do with numbers. People who are Logical-Mathematical are those who are good at reasoning, they can be mathematicians, computer programmers, analysts etc. A more accurate definition of this intelligence places emphasis less on traditional mathematical ability and more on reasoning capability, abstract pattern recognition, scientific thinking and investigation.
5. Naturalistic
   This area has to do with nature, nurturing and relating information to one’s natural surroundings. Naturalistic people are said to have greater sensitivity to nature and their place within it, they have the ability to nurture and grow things, and greater ease in caring for, taming and interacting with animals. They learn best by being outside in a kinesthetic way.
6. Intrapersonal
   This area has to do with introspective and self-reflective capacities. People who are intrapersonal are typically introverts and prefer to work alone. They are usually highly self-aware and capable of understanding their own emotions, goals and motivations. They learn best when allowed to concentrate on a subject by themselves.
7. Spatial
   Area of intelligence that has something to do with vision and spatial judgment. People with strong visual-spatial intelligence are typically very good at visualizing and mentally manipulating objects. They are very artistic by nature, they are also characterized by having a strong visual memory and a good sense of direction.
8. Musical
   This area has to do with rhythm, music, and hearing. People with this intelligence normally have a good pitch, are able to sing, play musical instruments, and compose music. Those who are strongest in it may learn best via lecture.

What’s Best For My Child Then?
How do you know what kind of approach is best for your child then? As a parent, and as a rule of thumb, the best way to know whether your child would really benefit from his or her education, is by talking directly to your child’s supervising teacher. Ask a few of questions, (1)ask about the style of teaching and the school’s approach, (2)ask why should you prefer this method over the other, (3)ask them their personal opinions about the methods they use and how effective they think it is, this way you’ll be able to have an idea whether or not they really know what they’re doing or simply feeding you answers from the book - which is the last thing you’d want from a teacher.

Simply put, what I’m suggesting is that in choosing the best school for your child, you should put more weight on your child’s teacher-to-be rather than the teaching methods that they use. We must never forget that these approaches, as helpful as they are, should serve simply as a guide to your child’s growth, whereas the bigger part of a child’s development heavily relies on teachers and educators including ourselves as their parents.

Buyong Sponsorship Program

About the foundation
- The Buyong Sponsorship Program was organized in 1982 to help children in the small village of Buyong Maribago in the central Philippines continue their education.

How Does the Program Work
- The program is funded by donations from individuals, group of friends, a ladies’ church group in Olympia, Washington, and by the student members of the Philippine Relief Organization at the American School of Japan.

Location
- Buyong is one of the five sitios of Barangay Maribago, that lies on the eastern side of Mactan Island. Mactan Island is adjacent to the central Philippine city of Cebu.

Demographics
- Only a small minority of Buyong adults have graduated from high school, making nearby factories and resorts reluctant to give long-term contracts to local residents.

Program Overview
- The Buyong Sponsorship Program has been closely involved with the Buyong Elementary School and teachers since 1984. Many deserving sixth grade graduates whose families were unable to send them to high school have been able to continue their education thanks to sponsorship.

Building a Nation through (Proper) Education

Being in a third world country can sometimes be depressing, which is why the country has been fighting to solve this problem for quite some time now and the solution being: Education is the answer to poverty. The problem though, is that the quality of education that the general public in gets is not as competitive as it should be.

I was watching TV a few minutes ago when I turned to the Knowledge Channel, and said to myself - “Hey, I was starting a blog about Philippine education and here’s a TV show that exists solely to promote Filipino education.” And you know what else, these guys have been doing their thing for years without asking for anything in return, well I don’t know that for sure , but kidding aside, it’s a noble thing they’re doing.

What caught my attention the most is when I decided to check out the website to read a few things about is their belief. To summarize, I learned that the Knowledge Channel Foundation Inc. is a non-stock, non-profit organization that believes in equal education for all. I find this idea very interesting, a bit idealistic, but nevertheless interesting. So I thought I might as well pass it on to a few more people over the world wide web make some links to them in the process - who knows it just might help the cause.

It’s always heart warming to know that there are still people in this world with such a vision. It’s actually a very simple wish - Equal Education for everybody, that would be the day… Check out the knowledge channel website here for more information. Please do check out the page where it says - Donate if you have the time (and money) as well.

Philippine Schools Website Directory Listing

Local Schools Beginning with Letter A

1. ABE College Caloocan
2. Abuyog Academy High School
3. Access Computer And Technical College
4. Adamson University
5. Advance Science and Technology Institute
6. Adventist International Institute of Advanced Studies
7. Adventist University of the Philippines
8. Aklan Catholic College
9. AMA Education System
10. AMA Computer University
11. Ames Academy
12. Angelicum College
13. Antioch Bible College
14. Arellano Law School
15. Asbury College
16. Asia Pacific College
17. Asia Pacific Theological Seminary
18. Asian Institute of Management
19. Assumption College of Makati
20. Astronomical League of the Philippines
21. Ateneo de Davao University
22. Ateneo de Manila High School
23. Ateneo de Manila University
24. Ateneo de Naga University
25. Ateneo de Zamboanga
26. Ateneo Graduate School of Business
27. Aurora Christian School Foundation
28. Aurora State College of Technology

Local Schools Beginning with Letter B

1. Bacoor Evangelical School
2. Baguio City School of Arts and Trades
3. Baler Institute
4. Barner Learning Center
5. Bayanihan Institute
6. Benguet State University
7. BETI College of Technology
8. Bluepoint Institute of Higher Technology Foundation
9. Brent International School - Manila
10. Brent International School

Local Schools Beginning with Letter C

1. Cainta Catholic College
2. Capas High School
3. Capitol University of Cagayan de Oro City
4. Cebu International School
5. Cebu State College of Science and Technology
6. Center for Industrial Technology and Enterprise
7. Central Colleges of the Philippines
8. Central Luzon College of Science and Technology
9. Central Luzon Doctors’ Hospital Educational Institution Inc.
10. Central Luzon State University
11. Central Philippines University
12. Centro Escolar University
13. Chiang Kai Shek College
14. Child Learning Foundation
15. Christian Academy in Davao Oriental, Inc.
16. Calapan Chu Eng School
17. Claret School of Quezon City
18. Colegio de Naic
19. Colegio de San Juan de Letran
20. Colegio de San Lorenzo
21. College of Technological Sciences
22. College of the Immaculate Conception
23. Computer Arts and Technology School
24. Comteq Computer and Business College

Local Schools Beginning with Letter D

1. Daniel B. Pena Memorial College Foundation
2. Davao Medical School Foundation
3. De La Salle - Araneta University
4. De La Salle - College of Saint Benilde
5. De La Salle University
6. De La Salle University - Canlubang
7. De La Salle University - Dasmariñas
8. De La Salle University - Lipa
9. De La Salle University - Santiago Zobel
10. De La Salle University - Professional Schools, Inc.
11. Development Academy of the Philippines
12. Dipolog Medical Center College Foundation
13. Divine World College of Legaspi
14. Don Bosco Technical College
15. Don Bosco Technical Institute - Makati
16. Don Mariano Marcos Memorial State University

Local Schools Beginning with Letter E F G

1. East Asia College of Information Technology
2. Emmanuel College Of Plaridel
3. Escuela de Santo Rosario
4. Faith Academy
5. Faith Christian Academy Of Novaliches
6. Far Eastern University
7. First Asia Institute of Technology and Humanities
8. Franciscan College of the Immaculate Conception
9. Fremont Learning Center
10. Gateways Institute of Science and Technology
11. Global City Innovative College
12. Good Shepherd’s Fold Academy

Local Schools Beginning with Letter H I J K

1. Hercor College
2. Holy Cross of Davao College
3. Holy Spirit Academy of Malolos
4. Holy Trinity College
5. iACADEMY
6. Iligan Institute of Technology
7. IloIlo City National High School
8. Immaculate Conception College of Balayan
9. Imus Computer College
10. Informatics Computer Institute
11. Interface Computer College
12. International Academy of Film and Television
13. International Electronics and Technical Institute School System
14. J.E. Mondejar Computer College
15. Jose Rizal University
16. Kalayaan College
17. Kids Int’l Learning Academy
18. Kinder Minds Learning Center

Local Schools Beginning with Letter L M N

1. La Consolacion College Manila
2. La Consolacion College Pasig
3. La Consolacion College of Iriga City
4. Manila Central University
5. Manuel S. Enverga University Foundation - Lucena
6. Manuel L. Quezon University
7. Mapua Institute of Technology
8. Maria Montessori Children’s School
9. Mariner’s Polytechnic Colleges Foundation
10. Maritime Academy of Asia and the Pacific
11. MFI Foundation Inc
12. Miriam College
13. Montessori de Oro
14. MSA Tutorial and Review Center
15. MSC Institute of Technology
16. National College of Business and Arts
17. National Defense College
18. New England College
19. Notre Dame of Greater Manila
20. Notre Dame of Marbel University
21. Novaliches High School Quezon City

Local Schools Beginning with Letter O P Q R

1. Olivarez College
2. Olra College Foundation
3. Operation Brotherhood Montessori Center
4. Omni Aviation Corporation Pilot School
5. Our Lady of Fatima University
6. Paco Catholic School
7. Palawan State University
8. Pangasinan National High School
9. Pangasinan State University
10. PAREF Woodrose School
11. Pasig Catholic College
12. Pathways to Creative Learning
13. PATTS College of Aeronautics
14. Philippine Christian University
15. Philippine College of Criminology
16. Philippine Computer College
17. Philippine Cultural High School
18. Philippine Heart Center Nursing Alumni Society
19. Philippine Merchant Marine Academy
20. Philippine Military Academy
21. Philippine Normal University
22. Philippine Paramedical & Technical School of Davao
23. Philippine School of Business Administration
24. Philippine Science High School
25. Philippine Women’s College of Davao
26. Philippine Women’s University
27. Polytechnic University of the Philippines
28. Republic Central Colleges
29. Rizal Technological University
30. Roosevelt College
31. Royal Christian College

Local Schools Beginning with Letter S

1. Sacred Heart Academy of La Loma
2. Sacred Heart School
3. Saint Catherine Learning Center
4. Saint Francis Of Assisi College
5. Saint Francis School
6. Saint Ignatius Health Science College
7. Saint John Berchmans School of Manila Foundation
8. Saint Jude Academy
9. Saint Jude College
10. Saint Louis University
11. Saint Luke’s College of Medicine
12. Saint Mary’s Academy
13. Saint Mary’s Angels
14. Saint Mary’s College - Quezon City
15. Saint Mary’s College - Meycauyan
16. Saint Mary’s University
17. Saint Michael’s College of Laguna
18. Saint Paul College of Ilocos Sur
19. Saint Paul College Pasig
20. Saint Paul University Manila
21. Saint Paul University Quezon City
22. Samar College
23. Samson College of Science and Technology
24. San Beda College
25. San Sebastian College Recoletos
26. Santa Isabel College
27. School of Saint Anthony Lagro Quezon City
28. (The)Seed Montessori School
29. Sienna College of Quezon City
30. Silliman University
31. Southeastern College
32. Southeastern College of Padada
33. Southern Leyte State University
34. Southville Foreign College
35. Southville International School
36. Southwestern University
37. Sunny Dale Learning Center
38. Sunshine Learning Center
39. Surigao Education Center
40. Systems Technology Institute

Local Schools Beginning with Letter T

1. Tanchuling College
2. Technological University of the Philippines
3. The Sisters of Mary School
4. Toddlers Unlimited Incorporation
5. Trinity University of Asia

Local Schools Beginning with Letter U

1. University of Baguio Science High School
2. University of Batangas
3. University of Bohol
4. University of Iloilo
5. University of Makati
6. University of Manila
7. University of Mindanao
8. University of Northeastern Philippines
9. University of Nueva Caceres
10. University of Perpetual Help System
11. University of Regina Carmeli
12. University of Saint La Salle
13. University of San Carlos
14. University of the East
15. University of the Philippines
16. University of the Philippines - Diliman
17. University of the Philippines - Integrated School
18. University of the Philippines - Los Banos
19. University of the Philippines - Manila
20. University of the Philippines - Mindanao
21. University of the Philippines - Visayas
22. University of Regina Carmeli
23. University Of St Louis Tuguegarao City Online Community
24. University of Santo Tomas
25. University of Southern Mindanao

Local Schools Beginning with Letter V W X Y Z

1. Virgen Milagrosa University Foundation
2. Wesleyan University
3. West Bay College
4. Western Mindanao State University
5. West Negros College
6. Xavier School

Successful Parenting Tips

It is important for a child to feel a sense of security and longing, as these small things helps build confidence and self-esteem. If a child is disciplined in this respect, he will not have the need to withdraw to gangs, drugs, violence etc. just to find a place of comfort.

Here are a few tips for successful parenting adopted from different sources:

Time spent with your child is next to nothing - While toys, clothing and other material things may take his attention away from you not being physically there, it doesn’t mean that he’s content with you not being there. Time is the most important thing that you can give your child, as it makes him feel secure, loved and valued.

Try to allot some time to play or even as simple as talk to your child on a daily basis. There are a lot of activities you can share with your child like reading him a book before bedtime, watching with him his kiddie show(hope it’s not Barney :D), or if you want him to become more artistically inclined, painting or drawing would be the thing for you. The point is just to spend some time doing something together with your child, because these small acts really mean a great deal to his emotional development.

Give children a Sense of Responsibility - Remember when you were in grade school, and you can’t wait to be in high school or even college? Same goes for your child, the concept of becoming an adult excites them, and one way to develop them to becoming more independent is to give them responsibilities. Well, it doesn’t have to be anything big like paying for the rent (poor kid), it could be as simple as making his bed or packing up his toys when he’s done playing, anything that would make him feel that he’s part of the ‘adult’ community.

Actions mean more than Words - Sometimes, especially when we’re tired coming home from work, we neglect the small things that our child does, he may do something we don’t like and we simply tell him “No, don’t do that.” Of course, being a parent, we all know simply saying it is never enough - especially if we’re talking to a toddler, and tired as we are, we simply give up and just let him be, well - DON’T BE. If you let a “No, Don’t Do That” pass him without you doing something about it, chances are, the next time you tell him to stop, he’ll simply disregard it. The key is to just be patient, no matter how tired you are, Act On It, and remember that your dealing with a child (not your boss), and he can’t help but disobey at times, call it curiosity if you must.

Notice the Act not the Child - When reprimanding, always point it towards the deed and not the person who did it. This shows that you are not angry at him but angry because of what he did. Also, try and explain to the child why you reprimanded him and why he shouldn’t do the same act again. This should go the same for complements, instead of saying “Good Boy”, say “Good Job” when he does something that you like.

Be Kind but be Firm - Whenever you say no, you don’t need to be mad, angry or shouting if he doesn’t comply, but it also doesn’t mean that you have to give him what he wants because your simply being kind.

Consequence for every Action - Rewarding and Punishing has always been one of the most effective disciplining tool. Just be careful and explain the logic behind the consequences of every action. As these simple logic are a child’s building blocks for telling right from wrong.

Don’t be seen Angry - If your child doesn’t listen to you, don’t get angry. If you do, he’ll take it that the right thing to do if you don’t get what you want is to BE ANGRY, and believe me you wouldn’t want him to throw tantrums every time he doesn’t get what he wants.

Parent with End Result in mind - Guide your child thinking how they will turn out as adults and not how they would turn out after the action. Always think longer terms, instead of what’s beneficial now. For example, spanking your child would be the easy way to make him listen to you, and it is most likely a guarantee that he will - because it hurts; but, chances are, your child will grow up thinking that spanking or hitting is not bad, thus teaching him to use acts of aggression as a resort to getting what he wants.

Be consistent and Follow through - Children get confused easily, so when explaining things, try to be consistent, same as when you have an agreement with your child, if the two of you agree on something, keep your word. This builds trust between the two of you and he will also know that when he says  he’ll do something, he has to keep it.

These are simple guides on how you should parent your child, taking into consideration how he will use your actions to justify his. The general rule is simple though - Trust, Love, and Respect, it’s all you really need to raise your child to becoming a responsible human being.

Difference Between Boys and Girls

Taken from Discipline without Shouting or Spanking, the points below are actually pretty accurate based on my own experiences:

1. Boys prefer to focus more on a single task and they react more aggressively to interruptions.
2. Girl’s motor activities peak less quickly, are less vigorous and last longer.
3. Boys create and play games that fill larger spaces, and they need to be outside more.
4. Girls’ attention to objects is less fleeting and less active.
5. Girls rely more on their five senses.
6. Boys do better with visual information presented to the left eye, which feeds the right hemisphere.
7. By age five, girls are six months ahead of boys in general development.
8. Boys who see themselves as physically strong will seek rough and tumble play.
9. Boys who feel safe and competent will seek independence earlier than girls.

*These differences are broad generalizations based on the vast amount of research on the development of boys and girls. Individual children may vary from these tendencies.

Discipline without Shouting or Spanking

If you are a parent, recognize that it is the most important calling and rewarding challenge you have. What you do every day, what you say and how you act, will do more to shape the future of America (Your Country) than any other factor. - Marion Wright Edelman

Discipline without shouting or spanking

Having problems disciplining your preschooler? This book just might be of some help to you. Discipline without shouting or spanking gives parents a great deal of insight to the most common Preschool Behavior Problems.

Understanding your preschooler is generally the most practical solution, but the problem, however, is that this often easier said than done. Which is why it is easy to appreciate books that help understand the cause of the problem or even an idea why such a problem exists, especially when it comes to your two-year-old. Plus, it’s a bit reassuring to know that what you’re going through with your child is actually normal, and that every parent goes through the same painful process as you do, it’s just a matter of how patient you can be.